I don’t believe in resolutions, especially of the New Years variety. I have never made resolutions, and I don’t really want to start now. It seems that if you’re trying to improve your life or yourself, it is counterproductive to obligate yourself to tasks and limitations that you never really had the motivation to do in the first place.
Resolutions probably work well for people with Type-A personalities–ambitious and determined people who aren’t happy unless they have acheived something. That’s certainly not me. I am a dreamer. A quiet, mellow person without much ambition or determination. I like to do quiet, simple things. I very rarely feel a need to finish things or accomplish some pre-determined end. I avoid competitions that stress the win over the game. I prefer to have fun playing, being part of a group; winning doesn’t mean anything to me.
However, there is something to be said for accomplishing goals and improving yourself and your life. I could never set myself to any specific benchmark task–my mind rebels at the very notion, and I am doomed to fail (which is why I lost no weight during my gym’s Biggest Loser contest in November–in fact, I gained).
Instead of “resolutions”, I can give myself goals–broad, conceptual goals in which I have my entire life to acheive. I can begin new habits, new ways of thinking. It took me all week to figure out what I wanted and how I wanted to do it.
Instead of resolving to be a “more productive artist/writer, making X number of paintings or pages a day” or “go to the gym every other day and lose 50 pounds” or “pay off my credit cards”, I will instead aspire to
- develop a practical art and writing practice that will encourage me to produce work without the need of self-flagellation.
- to take better care of myself, emotionally and physically, so that I can lead a comfortable life regardless of my material circumstances.
- to accept my life and myself without regret or incrimination–to merge myself into the flow of the Universe, and let what will be, be.
Instead of New Years resolutions, these are my life goals, and I know I can add or take from this list whenever I need to. I will not let my life be dictated by a faceless list of obligations.